Almost family

Do you know that feeling when you finish a book, and it was so good it still keeps you under its spell? You are looking forward to dive back into the pages (or paper white screen) just to then realize that it’s all over. Finished. I totally get the whole concept of fan-fiction now. Some things are just too good to let go.

These last few weeks have been such a blur of excitement and crazy family time. So many little kids and adults trying to make it work under one roof. There was a lot of Holiday stress and always something going on. That was due to the fact that we had all 7 grandkids together in one place on some days. And the added stress of John being away for 3 weeks. It was a FUN time but it was also EXHAUSTING.

Not sharing a continent with my family for the last 9 years has not gone unnoticed even though I always thought we would just pick up where we had left off. We’ve all grown up during that time, got married and had kids. Those are some pretty major life events. We’ve all formed our own world views and outlook on things and stances on certain topics. We’ve all had to learn how to do life with or without close proximity to our family. But all of us cherish having a relationship with each other and our parents and see the value and the benefit of it.

I think I allowed myself to see these last few weeks as a complete break from reality. Something like reading a book. It was fiction. All of us living under one roof, doing life together. Especially spending time with my twin sister. Usually there is no need for us to talk, we just get each other. But just having her there, to take in that time, to just hang out and live in this close proximity just for a little while was quite special. To have my parents enjoy time with Finley and Elea, to see the bond between them form and to see them just utterly and completely delight in each other.

 I absolutely loved having that time with them. It felt like making good on some missed firsts. Like first steps, first Christmas, first birthdays, first words. Everything over the last 4 years of having kids felt like they missed out on.

 But then I also realized something big and wonderful.  During this time of being separated from family, John and I got to experience how wonderful it is to have brothers and sisters in Christ and to make friends who are like family.

 Having gotten to share our lives and kids with them is such an unforgettable, precious thing. If you have friends in your life who have cried with you and laughed with you and changed your baby’s diapers; then trust me they are family. Friends who text or stop by when you need it the most and watch your kids so you can take a shower or buy you groceries or a venti green tea frappucino on your birthday. I feel blessed to have had this time where God placed “family-like-friends” in my life. These friends who have become like family is what it’s all about. Living our lives and inviting people in to share in the joy and sadness. People who pray for you and have seen your messiness. People who scrub your sink because they love you and read a million books to your kids.   

These last three weeks of family time were wonderful, but I am also excited to be back in our little house, adding to our ever expanding family with new friends.